Why Most People Struggle With Change
📍 A lot of people struggle with making change because they make it optional rather than certain and deliberate.
Think about it:
- You’re trying to arrange a meet-up with friends. They say, “Yeah, let’s catch up sometime. Let’s arrange a call.” But nothing ever happens.
- Compare that to someone saying, “I’ll meet you at 7 o’clock at the city center.”
The difference? Certainty.
When it comes to behavior change, if you say things like “I’ll go to the gym” or “I’ll get started on the house,” you’re leaving too many variables open. You’ve given yourself an out, because you haven’t fully committed.
Enter: Implementation Intention
James Clear, in Atomic Habits, talks about something called implementation intention.
👉 It’s about bringing certainty to the behavior you want to build.
The formula is simple:
“I will [BEHAVIOR] at [TIME] in [PLACE].”
This turns vague goals into specific, measurable commitments.
Why Certainty Works
Implementation intentions are powerful because they:
- Remove vagueness — no more fuzzy “sometime soon” goals.
- Prevent decision fatigue — the quickest way to get tired is constantly asking, “What should I do next?”
- Override avoidance — the brain naturally seeks comfort and the path of least resistance. Certainty tells it what to do.
Real-Life Examples
Here are some simple ways to use implementation intentions:
- Health & Fitness:
- ❌ Vague: “I’ll go to the gym in the evening.”
- ✅ Certain: “I will do 30 minutes of exercise at 7:00 PM at the gym in the city center.”
- Morning Routine:
- ❌ Vague: “I’ll try to exercise in the morning.”
- ✅ Certain: “When I wake up at 7:00 AM, I will do 10 pushups in my bedroom.”
- Decluttering:
- ❌ Vague: “I’ll tidy up later.”
- ✅ Certain: “At 6:00 PM, I will spend 10 minutes tidying my bedroom.”
- Business & Work:
- ❌ Vague: “I’ll call them this week.”
- ✅ Certain: “At 2:00 PM, I will call [Name] to discuss the project.”
Why Specificity Builds Habits
Habits stick when they are:
- Specific
- Visible
- Tied to a context (time and place)
And when you attach meaning and motivation behind them, they become even more powerful.
My Own Practice
I record these messages in the morning because I’ve committed to it. If I leave them until later in the day, they’re unlikely to get done. That’s implementation intention in action.
Avoidance: The Real Challenge
This week’s four-week coaching and mentoring is on avoidance. And the irony? Many people are avoiding the work on avoidance.
- Some don’t complete the worksheets.
- Others don’t post in the WhatsApp group.
I’ve been coaching and mentoring for 10 years, so I don’t take it personally. It’s not my issue—it’s theirs. I’m progressing regardless, and those who join in can progress with me.
Call to Action: Try It Today
Pick one behavior you want to turn into a habit.
👉 Write down: “I will [BEHAVIOR] at [TIME] in [PLACE].”
Then watch how much easier it becomes to follow through.
If you have questions, post them in:
- The WhatsApp group
- The Facebook group
- Or connect with me on LinkedIn, where I’m posting more regularly.
Sending well wishes—have a good day, and remember: certainty creates change.
